Your son or daughter has begun yet another phase in his or her life, which can prove to be both exciting and challenging. It is a period of joy, pain, relationships, discovery and, sometimes, disappointments.
Your involvement as a parent can enhance the learning process as students go through these moments of disappointment and success. This section is designed to assist parents in understanding Suffolk's expectations for our students and for the disciplinary process that addresses alleged violations of University policy.
We have also included some answers to questions commonly asked by parents, and some hints that might help you and your son or daughter to prepare for what lies ahead.
Parental notification of student disciplinary matters
Suffolk University recognizes that students and parents are our partners in promoting a healthy and productive educational experience. We believe parents assist students in fulfilling their educational goals through open dialogue. Therefore, in accordance with the guidelines set forth by the Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA), Suffolk University reserves the right to notify parents/guardians of dependent students when a student is under 21 and is found responsible for an alcohol or other drug violation or if a resident is in danger of losing his or her ability to live in on-campus housing.
Talking about alcohol or illegal drugs
(This section has been adapted from the Century Council.)
In speaking with your son or daughter about drug and alcohol use, please share realistically your own experiences, both positive and negative. Keep in mind, however, that it may not be helpful to boast about amounts used. In addition, be clear in what you expect from your son or daughter about things such as:
- Attending class
- Drinking and driving
- Financial responsibility
- Choices regarding drinking
- Study time vs. social time
- Staying in touch
To assist with this process, below are some conversation starters:
- How will you decide whether or not to drink, smoke pot or use other drugs?
- What will you do if you find yourself at a party with only alcohol to drink?
- What will you do if someone offers you illegal drugs?
- What will you do if your roommate only wants to party?
- How will you handle it if a friend is drunk or high and you think he/she needs medical attention?
Helping your son or daugher through the disciplinary process
Before your son or daughter begins the semester:
- Have an open discussion with your son or daughter about the process of making right choices, peer pressure and taking responsibility for his/her actions.
- Make sure that your son or daughter is clearly informed about your expectations and the values you hold.Be open to discussing difficult topics such as substance abuse, alcohol use, intimate relationships, and other risky behaviors.
- If your son or daughter is documented for an alleged violation of the Community Standards or another policy of the University, make sure that your son or daughter knows the disciplinary process.
- Have your son or daughter review the Community Standards and Student Conduct System, which is published in the Undergraduate and Graduate Student Handbooks.
- Encourage your son or daughter to speak with you about the incident and help him/her to process all the information.
- Have an open discussion with your son or daughter about the expectations the University has in regards to his or her behavior. Discuss ways to modify his or her behavior to meet those expectations. Encourage your son or daughter to seek help and support and direct him/her to the available resources on or off campus. Challenge him or her to ask questions and take the initiative in the process and continue to support your son or daughter emotionally while he/she resolves the issue.